You've probably heard on more than one occasion of a woman being head over heels for a man because he does whatever she says. Thats a good man right? My question is do a "good" man set himself up for failure in a relationship. Ive recently had a conversation with a guy friend and he was saying "if I get someone pregnant, im marrying her." In most people mind they might think "he's a good man for thinking this way" but in my mind, im thinking "why?"
Im not knocking his way of thinking but do the decision make him a good man or a fool for trying to live up to what would be accepted? I mean the question "Why?" was followed by "Do you love her?", "What if she's not the one for you?"
Dating a "good" guy is great but if a woman dont give him all he needs but he continues to do whats right even though its not completely sincere, he can resent the woman eventually.
Sometimes "good" men sacrifice or make decisions based off the way things "supposed" to go. They may realize that the woman doesn't complete them but they do things accordingly because relationships supposed to last right? At times, it can be hard to date a good man because they hold back the complete truth out of fear of hurting a woman feelings.
For instance, a guy I know met a female in a time in his life where he was felt he was ready to settle down. He settled alright. She didnt want to stay in her apartment building anymore so he bought an apartment knowing he couldnt afford that or wasn't ready for that step. She wanted a baby, he tried to give her one and wasn't ready but that was his woman anything she desired, he gave. Does that make him a fool or a "good" man?
You don't have to be a "yes" man or live up to society to be a "good" man. Its ok to do whats best for you. The problem is being selfish and the way you handle a situation that will make you less of a man. Do what makes you happy, respect the woman but dont become a fool and miserable. Even if you want your life to go a certain way, do not settle. Make sure you are happy and complete. You shouldnt have to change who you are just to keep someone in your life. Love is being accepted for who you are and wanting whats best for a person even if its not you whose best.
Dont compromise your hapiness!!!