Someone told me to make a blog about Finding A Man which is a very touchy subject for me. 1. because I'm single and 2. because I don't believe in "finding" a man. The fact that I'm single gave me the push to do this from experience of longing for or knowing what a man should be like once he finds me.
A man should be over the phase of longing to sleep with women who doesn't respect themselves. His mind should be on the future. He should be working on being the head off his household. Becoming a leader and not following his boys every move. He needs to be humble, loyal, career oriented, family oriented, respectful, compassionate, and loving.
The Bible says " He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord" Proverbs 18:22. I believe you should date to eventually become a wife. Not meaning assume or jump to the conclusion that everything that sounds good make him the"one". A woman should first be wife material. When I hear wife material I laugh because most women think they are wife material because they can cook, clean, and is good in bed. There's a shortage on women that knows how to cook but not a shortage on recipe books.
Those things might help shape you into being a wife but you're not quite there yet.
A woman has to first have herself together in order for her to be wife material. I'm not saying be perfect but there's a lot you need to know and possess.
First, you need to KNOW God for yourself. That's the first relationship you should work on if you can't do right by Him, you're definitely not good for a man. A woman should be able to pray for her man when she has one. Be able to go to God when things get rough, depend on God to help you two through anything. A relationship with God develops a honest, loving, devoted, forgiving wife.
Secondly, you should form some kind of independence. A woman should be able to stand on her own two feet before getting with a man. A real woman should always be a asset and not a liability. Be able to have your own so if your man ever needed help you can help. Bring something to the table other than sex.
Thirdly, Respect for herself. Respect is much deeper than how people look at it. If you respect yourself you take pride in the things you do or get involved in. Respecting yourself causes you not to do things that hinders you from being a blessing to the man that's ready to make you his wife. He don't have to worry about added stress from outside of your home.
Those are just a few to name. It isn't easy getting a man but if a woman stay focused on the right things she won't notice half the time that she's single. Take this time out for you. Love yourself, travel, find out what makes you happy. Work on yourself and follow your dreams that way you can be establish or close to being established when you meet him.
This topic takes me back to a woman telling me "Once you try something different then what you used to, most of the time it's better". So maybe you're single because you wouldn't give that light skinned man a chance because you looking for that chocolate man . You're too busy calling the good guy "lame" because he's treating you like you should be treated. Think about all the things that will make you happy or the things you need from a person in order to make you better(most likely it's not the man you're wanting).
I usually don't make personal blogs but there will be a part 2. My letter to my future husband.
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